Debunking Grief Myths

One of the biggest misconceptions or myths surrounding grief is the idea that it is a linear experience. This is simply not true, especially not for everyone. While there may be some individuals who do experience grief in a linear way, meaning that they go through each stage of grief in the order of denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and guilt, there are also many others who either don’t experience all of these stages or experience them in different orders. Clarifying the fact that grief is not a linear process is an important thing to recognize as it lets individuals understand that everything that they are feeling is perfectly normal and everyone goes through the process in their own individual way. So, if you previously were under the assumption that grief was linear, throw that idea away! 

Many people who are on the outside looking in may assume that an attachment between the bereaved to those who have passed may be unhealthy and not normal, but yet again this is simply false. Maintaining a strong sense of attachment or connection with someone who has just passed is a healthy way to cope with the fact that although they are not here anymore in their physical form, there are still ways to maintain a relationship with them in spirit. In fact, we believe that it’d be unhealthy and unusual to completely forget about the deceased and never spend time remembering them. Maintaining strong attachments after someone passes can look a number of different ways, with some examples being collecting or visiting their mementos, sitting by their final resting place and chatting with them, singing songs, doing activities, and more.

One of the most commonly used phrases after someone passes, “Time heals all wounds” is something that needs to be addressed. While it may sound nice in theory, this is also another myth. People who have experienced a loss, they can attest to the fact that although time may make things a little easier to deal with, the wound is never fully healed. There will always be a little grief surrounding the loss, but time will make it so that you understand how to live with the grief, although it will never completely disappear.



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